“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” – Mary Oliver
This is the quintessential question by which I live my own life:
What will I do with my one wild and precious life?
Life is a tiny and fleeting moment in the vastness of time. It’s estimated that earth is 4.54 billion years old, and we have but 77.97 little years to do with it what we want.
By the age of 30, I had lost four very important people in my life. Those losses taught me very painful yet valuable lessons—some at a very young age.
There are no guarantees. Life is here and then it’s gone, and I need to take advantage of every moment. My milliseconds, seconds, minutes, hours, days, years are just that—mine. I choose to share my precious time with those I love. I use my precious time to create my own joy, and to relish the fleeting moments and happiness of life.
Life is about enjoyment. Truly living is when you can finally be so comfortable with who you are that you no longer have to strive to change those little and unique pieces of yourself merely to satisfy the desires of someone else.
I feel a great responsibility to help my own daughter understand these ideas, as early as possible:
Be whatever it is you want to be as long as it makes you happy.
Become who you are for you, not for me.
My favorite weddings are all about you, your love, and your individuality. There are no traditions to follow “just because that’s what’s done”. If you follow traditions, it is because they have deep meaning in your heart. The location, the decor, the guests and the vows — they are all a reflection of what is inside your hearts and what is important to your lives.
The photographs I treasure are the ones that show personal connection. Ones of fleeting glances and knowing looks, free emotions and unique gestures, the ones that only you and those that love you could create. Life is what happens between the posed photographs. Those are the moments I chase.